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We asked our community how they spend Pride, what it means to them, whether it still feels important, who they meet, what they bring, and what kind of Pride person they are. Nearly 500 CockBlockers responded. And honestly? You surprised us. Yes, there were bars, parties, hookups, lube, harnesses, short shorts, and at least a few of you treating Pride like an Olympic event. But the themes that came through most clearly were: Visibility Connection Community Safety Friendship Showing up This is what we learned. Pride Is Still About Visibility  When we asked what Pride means, the top answer was: A reminder that visibility still matters - 69% That was followed closely by: A celebration of how far we’ve come - 65%A chance to feel connected to community - 64% That tells us something. Pride is not just a party. It is not just a parade. For many people, Pride is still one of the few times they can be fully, visibly, publicly themselves. One respondent put it beautifully: “I still find Pride to be one of the few places I can hold my husband’s hand in public without fear.” That sentence stayed with us. Because visibility can sound abstract until you remember what it can mean: Holding hands Kissing hello Wearing the thing you want to wear Showing up with your partner Not scanning the room first Not shrinking yourself Pride Feels More Important Today, Not Less We also asked whether Pride feels more or less important today than it did ten years ago. The answer was clear: 60% said Pride feels more important today  Only 13% said less important. That result feels significant. Because in theory, progress should make Pride feel less urgent. Marriage equality happened. More people are out. Queer culture is more visible. But a lot of respondents talked about the current political climate, the feeling that rights are being challenged again, and the importance of remembering where Pride came from. One person wrote: “We are in a very weird time defending our existence, again. Another said: “Pride is a party as much as a protest.” That may be the whole thing. Pride can be joyful and political. Pride can be sexy and serious. Pride can be a parade and a reminder. And a protest. Pride Creates Connection We asked whether people had ever met someone new at Pride. The most common answer was: Yes, a new friend - 54% That might be our favourite result. Yes, there were new casual encounters (36%). And a few even met their spouse. One respondent wrote: “Met my husband in 1995." Sometimes Pride is one weekend. Sometimes Pride is the place where your life splits into a romantic before and after. But for many, Pride is the place where you meet a friend, find your people, see someone like you, and finally feel less alone.  The Quiet Observers Have Entered The Chat We asked respondents to choose one Pride personality. The winner was not 'Dance-Floor Demon' or 'Shirtless by Noon'. The biggest single answer was: Quiet Observer - 37% This is a plot twist we loved. Because Pride is often perceived as if everyone is extroverted, shirtless, and dancing. And although Pride wouldn't be nearly as fun without these people, a big part of our community experiences Pride more quietly. Watching. Supporting. Walking around. Showing up. Taking it in. Being present.  Not everyone needs to be on the float. Some people are on the sidewalk, feeling everything. And yes, the shirtless delegation is still represented (11%). We see you too. How CockBlockers Actually Spend Pride We asked how people usually spend Pride. The top three answers were: 57% hang out with friends or family 52% attend a parade or community event 28% hit the bars or clubs  Pride can be a lot of things. It can be friends and family. It can be a parade. It can be nightlife. It can be sex. It can be travel. One respondent said they spend Pride quietly at home. Another said they celebrate with their boyfriend. Another said they make a point of being more visible whereever they can. There is no single correct way to do Pride. Which is good, because not all of us can do twelve hours in direct sunlight and deal with a bathroom line longer than the actual parade. The Real Pride Survival Kit We asked about your Pride survival essentials. The winner was not sexy, but it was correct: Comfortable shoes - 58% We are a sex toy company, and even we respect arch support. SPF (40%) beat glitter (9%) by a landslide. Though now we're wondering, could glitter be a form of SPF? The rest of the Pride survival kit: A charged phone (36% chose a portable charger) A look (36% chose a Pride t-shirt) A plan (21% chose a recovery brunch reservation) And lube (28%) What People Spend Money On During Pride We also asked what people spend money on during Pride. The top answer was: Drinks - 53% No shock there. And “drinks” doesn’t have to mean alcohol. Cocktails, mocktails, sparkling water, one heroic iced coffee - Pride can be thirsty work either way. We were pleased to see that adult products was second place at 41%, with Pride merch a close third at 40%.  Pride Is Not Just For Big Cities Nearly half (45%) of respondents live in a big city. But not everyone does. 26% live in a small city. 17% live in a suburb. 7% live in a town or village. 5% live in a rural area. We also asked whether people consider where they live progressive or conservative. 44% said progressive 35% said moderate 19% said conservative Pride does not mean the same thing everywhere. In a big city, Pride might mean crowds, clubs, flags, friends, and a hundred ways to be visible. In a small conservative town, Pride might mean wearing something subtle. Finding one safe event nearby. Driving thirty minutes to another city. Holding your partner’s hand for a moment and feeling the weight of it. One respondent wrote: “I live in a very small, conservative city. There’s still a lot of homophobia here and in the rest of the world.” Pride is not only for the places where it is easy. It matters most where it is not.  The Generational Part One thing that stood out in the open comments was age. Our survey skewed towards millennials and Gen Xers. But some of the most powerful comments came from older respondents. One person in their seventies wrote about only recently feeling safe enough to be out, and about wanting acceptance from younger generations. Another respondent wrote: “I implore the youth to carry the torch gaily forward.” That line deserves a moment. Because Pride is not just a celebration of identity. It is also an inheritance. Someone marched before you. Someone came out before you. Someone lost friends before you. Someone risked more than you may ever have to risk. And if we are lucky, someone after us will inherit something better. That is part of Pride too.  So What Did We Learn? We expected to learn how people do Pride. We did. But we also learned why Pride still matters. Here is what our community told us: Pride is visibility. Because being seen still matters. Pride is connection. Because people meet friends, lovers, spouses, and chosen family there. Pride is safety. Because holding hands in public should not feel brave, but sometimes it still does. Pride is joy. Because dancing, flirting, drinking, hooking up, dressing up, and feeling hot are not separate from liberation. Pride is not one thing. It is loud. It is quiet. It is political. It is sexy. It is personal. It is communal. It is sometimes exhausting. It is sometimes life-changing. And for many people, it feels more important now than ever. Thank you to everyone who answered our first CockBlock Pride survey. We read your answers. We laughed at some. We sat with others. But mostly, we felt grateful you took the time to share. We love learning about our community. What should we ask next? Just Some of Your Comments "Pride is a party as much as a protest." "I still find Pride to be one of the few places I can hold my husband’s hand in public without fear." "Visibility and representation matters." "Pride is the time to be ourselves for once." "I implore the youth to carry the torch gaily forward." "The biggest act of resistance… is to be radically present and authentic." "Pride is important to me because if it weren’t for this community, I’d be in a much harder place." Full Survey Results Q1. How do you usually spend Pride?  Hang out with friends/family: 56.9% / 263 responses  Attend parade or other community events: 51.7% / 239  Hit the bars/clubs: 27.7% / 128  Host or attend a sex party: 18.4% / 85  I don’t really celebrate Pride: 16.9% / 78  Host or attend a house party: 15.8% / 73  Travel: 15.4% / 71  Other: 6.1% / 28  Quick takeaway: The most common Pride activity was not clubbing. It was spending time with friends and family.  Q2. Have you ever met someone new at Pride?  Yes, a new friend: 53.7% / 248 responses  Not yet: 37.0% / 171  Yes, a new casual encounter: 35.7% / 165  Yes, a new relationship: 5.8% / 27  Yes, my spouse: 2.2% / 10  Yes, other: 2.0% / 9  Quick takeaway: Pride is a connection engine. More than half of respondents have met a new friend at Pride.  Q3. What does Pride mean to you?  A reminder that visibility still matters: 69.0% / 319 responses  A celebration of how far we’ve come: 64.9% / 300  A chance to feel connected to community: 64.1% / 296  A protest as much as a celebration: 42.0% / 194  An opportunity to meet new people: 35.1% / 162  Mostly just a fun time with friends: 25.5% / 118  Not especially important to me personally: 11.3% / 52  Other: 3.7% / 17  Quick takeaway: Visibility, progress, and community were the dominant themes.  Q4. Do you think Pride feels more or less important today than it did 10 years ago?  More important: 60.4% / 279 responses About the same: 18.0% / 83 Less important: 13.0% / 60 I’m not sure: 6.9% / 32 Other: 1.7% / 8 Quick takeaway: Most respondents said Pride feels more important today. Q5. If you had to choose one Pride personality that best suits you, which would it be?  Quiet Observer: 37.4% / 173 responses. Community Volunteer: 12.6% / 58  Dance-Floor Demon: 10.9% / 46  Shirtless by Noon: 10.6% / 49  I don’t participate: 7.6% / 35  Activist: 6.5% / 30  Rooftop Flirt: 6.1% / 28  Parade Float Rider: 5.4% / 25  Other: 3.9% / 18  Quick takeaway: The Quiet Observers are apparently running the show. Quietly, of course. Q6. What are your Pride survival essentials?  Comfortable shoes: 58.4% / 270 responses  SPF: 39.6% / 183  Short shorts: 36.2% / 167  Pride t-shirt: 36.2% / 167  Portable charger: 35.7% / 165  Lube: 28.1% / 130  Recovery brunch reservation: 21.2% / 98  Harness: 17.3% / 80  I don’t participate: 13.2% / 61  Glitter: 8.7% / 40  Other: 6.3% / 29  Quick takeaway: Comfortable shoes won. Glitter lost. Lube made a respectable showing. Q7. What do you spend money on during Pride?  Drinks: 53.0% / 245 responses  Adult products: 40.7% / 188  Pride merch: 40.0% / 185  Clothes: 34.9% / 161  Tickets: 32.2% / 149  Travel: 21.0% / 97  I don’t participate: 15.0% / 69  Other: 3.2% / 15  Quick takeaway: Pride spending is about experiences, identity, pleasure, and showing up. Q8. How much money do you spend on Pride?  $51 to $200: 39.2% / 181 responses  $1 to $50: 23.2% / 107  $201 to $500: 15.6% / 72  $0: 13.8% / 64  $501 and more: 8.2% / 38  Quick takeaway: Most respondents spend something on Pride, with $51–$200 being the most common range.  Q9. What kind of place do you live in?  Big city: 44.6% / 206 responses  Small city: 25.5% / 118  Suburb: 17.1% / 79  Town or village: 6.7% / 31  Rural area: 4.8% / 22  Other: 1.3% / 6  Quick takeaway: CockBlockers are everywhere.  Q10. Do you consider where you live progressive or conservative?  Progressive: 44.4% / 205 responses  Moderate: 35.1% / 162  Conservative: 19.0% / 88  Other: 1.5% / 7  Quick takeaway: Nearly 1 in 5 respondents said they live somewhere conservative.  Q11. What is your age range?  35–44: 34.9% / 161 responses  25–34: 24.9% / 115  45–54: 17.1% / 79  55–64: 13.4% / 62  65+: 6.3% / 29  18–24: 3.5% / 16  Quick takeaway: The largest respondent group was 35–44, but the survey included voices from all ages.   

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What is the best gay masturbator? And while we’re at it, what exactly is a masturbator, and what makes one gay? For the purposes of this article, a masturbator is a device designed to facilitate and enhance masturbation, which is when someone sexually stimulates themself. There are strokers, sleeves, oral sex machines, you name it. Sex toys designed for masturbation are supposed to feel better than, or different from, masturbating with your hand alone. As for what makes a masturbator gay? Well, some masturbators are marketed specifically for gay guys, and are even designed to mimic the orifices of gay porn stars. And of course, you've got CockBlock, which is specifically designed for gay, bi, curious and other penis-having couples. So… is CockBlock a Gay Masturbator? Not exactly. We know it kind of looks like one, and because you put your cocks in it, you might be tempted to call it one. But the purpose of CockBlock is not masturbation, it’s frot. That might sound like splitting hairs, but the difference is a fundamental one. CockBlock is specifically designed to allow two cocks to rub together inside it, and as such, it’s more about sex than it is about masturbation. That is until you consider the concept of "mutual masturbation", which opens a can of worms (or a block of cocks). Can a cock mutually masturbate another cock without it being sex? Is frot sex, or mutual masturbation, or both? Comments please! Furthermore, CockBlock is not exclusively aimed at gay couples. Anyone with a penis (or strap-on) can use it. So, if it's not a gay masturbator, is it a… froturbator? Masturfrotter? We’re open to suggestions here. At the risk of sounding immodest, when you are looking for a toy for two, we think CockBlock beats out conventional masturbators in a number of ways. Here are five reasons why you should start looking into a CockBlock. 1. CockBlock Is More Than A Sex Toy Sure, it’s a sex toy, but it is also, truly, a world first. CockBlock is the first sex toy designed to accommodate two cocks at the same time that aligns them in just the right way. So when we say it’s more than a gay masturbator, what we mean is that it creates a whole new category of sex toys. It’s never been done before, so… welcome to the future of sex. 2. Specifically Designed For Frotting CockBlock is made unique by its purpose: to enhance and facilitate frotting. Frot is the sexual act of rubbing your cocks together, sliding them over each other. It’s a very intimate and satisfying experience, and there is no gay masturbator that can offer what CockBlock offers. Accept no substitutes. 3. Quality Design & Packaging All you have to do is google “CockBlock reviews” to read and watch users talk about the quality of the CockBlock. Even the packaging looks cool. That matters. CockBlock seeks to create a whole new, enhanced experience. 4. It Is EXTREMELY Sexy Looking down when you’re using it with a partner, watching yourselves enter it together, it’s VERY hot. Nothing else in the world offers that. But beauty is skin deep. What makes CockBlock the world’s best sex toy for two cocks is the way it feels. With the two separate entry holes, it’s like frotting and penetrative sex all in one. It’s a block of pure sex. A block full of cock. 5. Easy Aftercare A removable, body-safe TPE sleeve inside a silicone outer-casing that pulls out in one simple piece makes CockBlock no hassle at all to keep clean. Fill it with your favorite water-based lube, use it, rinse it with soapy water, dry it and you're ready for next time. Literally wash, rinse, repeat. And That’s Why There are five reasons why we think CockBlock could make a huge positive impact on your sex life. But don’t take our word for it, feel free to go down the CockBlock rabbit hole and check out some reviews. Happy frotting.

Synchronized climaxes are really satisfying if you’re actively trying to achieve them, because when you get it right, everything stops for both of you, and you are purely and fully in the moment, together. Orgasms, though, are tricky to predict. It takes coordination and practice. You have to learn your partner, and to a degree, yourself. Today, we’ll talk you through some tips and tricks to help gay men and trans people have a simultaneous orgasm. Let’s go. Frotting Frotting is a sex act in which two or more cocks are rubbed together. It’s not penetrative sex, but it IS sex. The reason we’ve put frot at the top of this list is because it’s one of the easiest way to work up to a simultaneous orgasm. Engaging in frot facilitates everything that follows below: it permits great communication, helps synchronise your breathing, is mutually pleasurable, everything that’s needed for a coordinated simultaneous orgasm. It’s not a sex position as such. But it allows you to both find a comfortable position in which to take your time, edge as necessary, and match each other’s state of arousal. Speaking of edging… Edging Edging is the decoration around the edge of a cake. And, while that’s pretty exciting, it’s not the meaning we’re talking about here. Edging is the name we gave to the practice of intentionally delaying orgasm to prolong a sexual experience. Normally, edging is promoted in order to help you enjoy a bigger, more fulfilling climax, because delaying orgasm has the effect of enhancing it. With frotting, and when the goal is a simultaneous orgasm, edging helps you learn the physiological effects when you’re close to orgasm, and how to control those urges. Edging together, or alone, is excellent training for a simultaneous orgasm. Good Communication Sex is a dialog, that’s why they call it ‘intercourse’. Probably. Communication is central. Open and honest communication about desires, preferences, and boundaries is the bedrock of better sex. Talking about how close you are to climax, or asking your partner to wait while you catch up, helps you to time your orgasms together. Not to bang on about frotting, but frotting really is one of the best ways to do this. Preferably with a CockBlock. With the CockBlock between your bodies, and both of you inside it together, you can talk directly, face to face, about how close you are. Erotic Stimulation We’ve made frotting sound all very civilized. All this talk of good communication and eye contact, we might as well be talking about a handshake. But it doesn’t need to be like that. Frotting to erotic videos can be a really hot, sexy way to bring both of you up to orgasmic speed together, just as their addition to other forms of gay sex can also spice things up.  Introducing toys into the bedroom is also a sexy way to enhance the sensations and control your orgasms. Cock rings are useful for delaying climax. And of course there's CockBlock.  Lubrication Lube is the axle on which the wheel of sex revolves. For the sake of our purposes, simultaneous orgasms, lube is absolutely indispensable – especially if frot is your preferred technique to achieve them. Apply it liberally to your cocks  or anywhere there might be contact. Lay a towel down for easier clean up. Then frot together like it’s going out of fashion. Explore & Experiment Look, this is supposed to be fun and pleasurable. That’s all that matters. If you’re struggling to get in sync, consider it practice and look forward to trying again.    Make it a playful challenge, but don’t take it too seriously. While a simultaneous orgasm is an explosively enjoyable experience, there should be no destination to sex. It’s about the journey.

We don’t really consider the CockBlock toy to be a ‘male masturbator,’ at least not in the conventional sense. Why is that? And what makes it different? Oh, and while we’re at it… what is frotting?

As all colloquial sex terms do, the meaning of the word 'frot' has changed over time. Before the turn of the millennium, it meant the rubbing of the penis against any surface. If you were lying on your front watching Netflix and felt a pang of desire, it’s because you were frotting with the carpet.